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How to build your confidence, essential 2 points

In the last article I talked about why your self-affirmation is low and one habit that is exacerbating it. So, How can we build confidence in ourselves? This time I will tell you about the two mental attitudes absolutely necessary to have confidence. 2 essential ways to build self‐confidence It has two axes. One is to succeed and experience confidence in yourself. The other is to accept yourself as you are. piling your successful experiences As expected, this is important. People who don't have confidence believe that "I am useless" as I wrote in the previous article. And to believe ...

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Cause of all low self-esteem & only one habit to lower your self esteem

2018/11/3  

"I do not have confidence in myself", "I want to be confidence"..... In fact there are many people who wish they had confidence. Actually, there is a evil habit that people with low self-affirmation have always done and lower their self affirmation feeling more and more. This time I will tell you why you can't feel confident in yourself and one habit to promote it. The reason of your low self-affirmation and bad habit to let down yourself We are with myself from the moment we were born until we die. The reason of your low self-affirmation There is only ...

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Why don't we sometimes rejoice in the happiness of others?

2018/10/18  

"I can't frankly be pleased with the success of close people." "I'm laughing at the failure of familiar people." Don't you sometimes feel like that? We want to rejoice in the happiness of familiar people, but why can't we sometimes do it? I will tell you the reason and what you should do. Why don't we sometimes rejoice in the happiness of others? In what circumstances can't we rejoice in others' happiness In the first place, we are considered to have a self-raising motive, which is a motivation to protect our self-esteem. To put it briefly, we all want to think ...

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Concrete method of moving out of peer pressure and acting

2018/10/13  

We succumb to peer pressure easily. Even if it is clear that it is wrong, we humans are often comply with what most human beings agree on. In order to understand this fact and become a human being who can do what is right with your own dignity, it is important to simply have information on this. This time I will tell you how human beings are weak against sync pressures and then how to get out of it. Concrete method of moving out of peer pressure and acting We easily change our opinions by reaction of others. Let me ...

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"Why don't you understand me?" The reason you aren't understood.

2018/10/12  

"I do my best at work and housework but nobody don't understand it!" "My boyfriend doesn't understand my feelings at all." We often get disappointed and irritate about how others don't understand us. Let's put an end to such feelings today. I will tell you the three ways of thinking necessary to become free from the irritation. Be free from the irritation such as "why don't you understand me?" That others don't understand you is of course. Don't expect. All from the lack of imagination That others don't understand you is of course. First is about the basic attitude. Your ...

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The reason you can't decide. Two things that disturb decision making.

2018/10/6    

We make many decisions everyday. I will tell you about two things that could make that optimal decision the worst. The reason you can't decide.  There are two things to disturb your decision making.  Anxiety about what surroundings think Obsessing with past that you did so far Anxiety about what surroundings think This is a waste of time and your cognitive cost for the following reasons. a. Nobody can't take responsibility for your decisions b. What other people think are not your business I explain about these each. a, Nobody can't take responsibility for your decisions the surrounding people say whatever ...

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how not to care about what others think about you

2018/10/6    

we concern about surrounding - "how other people think", "how I appear to others", "whether I'm disliked by people or not",etc -. It's because that's how we are designed. The anterior cingulate gyrus of the human brain are active when the opinion deviates from others. This part is the part that detects various errors. The brain has no choice but to care about others. This time, I will tell you how to get out of the negative feelings by caring others feelings. the way not to care about what others think about you We can choose what is the facts ...

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How to make a good decision when you can't make up your mind. 3, Make a decision.

2018/10/4    

Continuation from last time,"How to make a good decision when you can't make up your mind. 2 to have the courage to truncate.”. Last time I wrote about the idea of truncating things that hinder correct decision making. Everyone who has read the article so far should know the purpose of your choice and what is not necessary for the purpose. Still, those who have not read the previous article, please come back after reading ① ②. Make a decision. Well, all that is left is just making a decision since you have come this far. I will inform you of the ...

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How to make a good decision when you can't make up your mind. 2, to have the courage to truncate.

2018/10/3    

Continuation from last time,"How to make a good decision when you can't make up your mind. 1. clarify your purpose”.Last time I talked about clarifying the purpose of that choice in order to ride the "thinking" base rather than "worrying". Please do not misunderstand as if you really understand it before you don't verbalize it. People who can not use words can not think own. To use words is not such a story that you can use correct English. As for this, speaking becomes long, so if you are interested, please have a look at "People have 2 languages, use ...

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How to make a good decision when you can't make up your mind. 1. clarify your purpose

2018/9/30    

"Should I quit my company?" , "I do not want to go to school, but..." , "Should I try this?", "May I contact him?", like that, there are many things to decide in our life. I will tell you about important steps to make the right decisions in three parts. This is the first step. 1, to clarify your purpose Why are you hesitating to make a decision? Are you suffering from wanting to be in a sentimental mood? Otherwise, let's stop worrying and think about it. Just thinking about "what to do" is never advance your thought, it is ...

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